Boy publicly punished for calling teachers bad name
OKLAHOMA CITY — A third grade boy has been suspended from school after calling two teachers a bad word that starts with the letter “B.”
When the single father picked up the boy from school, he had to go back to work, with no babysitter so the boy came along.
But Kevin Conley took creative disciplinary actions; he made his son stand outside with a sign reading, “I called my teacher a B****. Honk 4 bad.”
“I want him to realize every time someone honks, how bad what he did was. I want my boys to be upstanding and know not to call women that name ever,” Conley said.
People who agreed with the non-traditional discipline honked, others raised an eyebrow.
Passerby James Holmes said, “I think it’s a good idea. You can’t go around calling your teachers bad names.”
The 8 year old stood outside for hours but he got water breaks every thirty minutes, bathroom breaks and even lunch, minus the dessert.
“He didn’t get his pudding and he didn’t get his swiss cake but he got his sandwich and chips and cheese,” Conley said.
Fabian Flores is another passerby. His sister is a teacher.
“It’s good to see that parents are actually taking pride in the behavior of their kids at school,” he said.
Edmond family therapist Donnie Van Curen M.A., LMFT said, “You can’t really tell what’s going on in family based on a picture. There’s probably a question of the child being embarrassed or having a self-esteem concern. I think this type of punishment could be appropriate but I think it has a lot has to do with how mom and dad have been parenting up to that point and how the child is interpreting the punishment.”
Van Curen said parents should make sure their children are aware of what they can be punished for and what the consequences will be.
The boy didn’t have much to say to our cameras but he did have a message for someone else.
When asked if he had anything to say to his teachers, he said, “Sorry.”
At 3:30 p.m., the time he was supposed to be home from school, the punishment was over and he was able to leave.
“They’ve got to learn their lesson one way or another. I’d rather it be this way than another way down the line,” Conley said.
Van Curen said it’s easy for parents to punish their children when they’re upset but he said the most important thing parents should remember is that all discipline should be consistent and not reactionary.
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