Facebook ruined my life

Posted on: 10:07 pm, February 11, 2013, by , updated on: 05:31pm, February 11, 2013


OKLAHOMA CITY – Just a few clicks of the keyboard, a simple status update and Heather Grauberger’s life was turned upside down.

She said, “Of course I don’t want to admit I was wrong but it probably was not the right thing to do.”

Heather was asked to work July 4. 

She was four months pregnant and had two small boys at home; she reluctantly agreed to come in.

Later, Grauberger expressed her displeasure on Facebook.

Heather quipped she’d “never be able to afford more than store brand SpaghettiOs.”

The very next day, Heather was dismissed for defaming the company.

“I never thought in a million years, saying that I was overworked and underpaid and complained about SpaghettiOs would put me in a position where we didn’t have a house or extra things for our kids,” she said. “You don’t think that far ahead. You don’t think about it when you’re saying something, and you should.”

It’s called the “overshare.”

Experts said, too often, we divulge details and images of our lives that are not meant for public consumption.

Clinical psychologist Caleb Lack has conducted several studies on college undergraduates.

“Pretty much, overwhelmingly, they shared information that would be considered inappropriate,” he said. “Either information that was racist, sexist, elitist in some way. Talking about drug and alcohol use. Talking about partying.”

Experts said there are posts that can shatter relationships, destroy careers and ruin reputations.

Vice President of University Relations Adrienne Nobles does presentations for UCO students and staff, teaching the do’s & don’ts of social media.

“I say, before you post anything, re-read it and think about it,” Nobles said. “If you hesitate for even a second, it’s probably best not to post it because once it’s out there, it’s out there.”

Heather Grawburger learned the hard way.

“With your freedom of speech comes a price,” she said. “There are consequences to everything you do. If I could go back and change it, I would. I would have kept my opinion to myself.”