Why parents should keep their cool when disciplining teens
Having teens at home can be challenging, especially when it comes to dealing with disagreements.
New research shows raising your voice at teens is not the answer.
This study showed when parents frequently yell at or humiliate their kids, it’s harmful to them.
Researchers found that when parents disciplined their teenagers by yelling, swearing at, or humiliating them, two or more times a week, the teens were more likely to act up in school, lie to parents, steal, fight or show signs of depression.
The study looked at almost 1,000 two-parent families.
Clinical psychologist Mark Crawford said, “When their primary caretakers are yelling or humiliating them, it really causes them to question their own self-worth and their own identity.”
Parents usually yell because they take their child’s behavior personally or they feel out of control.
Let’s face it; parenting a teen is not always easy.
“You’re going to be upset; that’s just part of the job description,” Crawford said. “So what I think it’s important for parents to know is you have to self soothe, you have to step away, get control of your own emotions, then decide, what am I trying to do? Do I need to discipline, to teach, or do I need to just have a conversation with them?”