“We’re not your patient, she’s your patient,” Doctor refuses treatment of same-sex couple’s baby

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DETROIT (WJBK) – Bay Windsor Contreras is just 4-months-old and already has her mothers wrapped around her finger.

Krista and Jami Contreras were married in Vermont in 2012.

In 2014, they welcomed a beautiful baby into their family, but were quickly confronted with an ugly reality.

“As far as we know, Bay doesn’t have a sexual orientation yet so I’m not really sure what that matters,” Jami said. “We’re not your patient, she’s your patient. And the fact is that your job is to keep babies healthy and you can’t keep a baby healthy that has gay parents?”

Last September, Krista and Jami visited Dr. Vesna Roi after she was recommended to them by a midwife.

“We were really happy with her. The kind of care she offered, we liked her personality, she seemed pretty friendly,” said Krista. “She seemed pretty straight up with us.”

The couple was told to make an appointment with Dr. Roi once Bay arrived.

When she was just 6-days-old, the couple took her to the doctor.

Instead of seeing Dr. Roi, another doctor greeted them.

“The first thing Dr. Karam said was, ‘I’ll be your doctor. I’ll be seeing you today because Dr. Roi decided this morning that she prayed on it and she won’t be able to care for Bay,” Jami said. “Dr. Karam told us she didn’t even come to the office that morning because she didn’t want to see us.”

The new mothers were shocked, hurt and angry.

“It was embarrassing, it was humiliating and here we are, new parents trying to protect her,” Jami said. “And we know this happens in the world and we’re completely prepared for this to happen other places, but not at our 6-day-old’s wellness appointment.”

Nearly four months after the scheduled appointment, the Contreras family received  a letter from Dr. Roi.

“After much prayer following your prenatal, I felt that I would not be able to develop the personal patient-doctor relationships that I normally do with my patients. We do not keep prenatal information once we have our meetings so I had no way to contact you,” it read.

She apologized, saying, “I should have spoken with you directly that day,” and “please know that I believe that God gives us free choice and I would never judge anyone based on what they do with that free choice.”

The American Medical Association says physicians cannot refuse to care for patients based on sexual orientation, but doctors can refuse treatment if it’s incompatible with their personal, religious or moral beliefs.

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