“They’re pretty low,” Family devastated after murder victim’s gravesite desecrated

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MIDWEST CITY, Okla. - An Oklahoma family is demanding answers after someone desecrated their loved one’s grave.

The woman buried there, Nancy Helmle Probst, was the victim of a high-profile murder case that’s still unsolved.

Nancy was killed in her Midwest City home in 2000.

Her little 9-month-old baby girl was in the next room, unharmed.

Now, after someone disturbed Nancy’s headstone, it’s making the upcoming anniversary of her murder that much harder for her family.

“I miss her a bunch every day, every day I think about her,” Byron Helmle said.

Nancy Helmle Probst was murdered in November 2000.

She’d been beaten and shot once in the back of the head.

Her brother, Byron, visits her grave often.

He adopted Nancy’s daughter, who was left unharmed in another room the day of the murder.

“Every year, it’s hard to deal with the holidays because it’s right around the holidays, it’s very upsetting,” Helmle said.

You can imagine how disturbed the family was when they found a plaque concealing Nancy’s married name had been pried off her headstone.

They’d covered it 15 years ago when Nancy’s husband, Matt Probst, was arrested for her murder.

 “With the suspicion going around, he spent 13 months in jail, and we just didn’t want that name connected to my sister,” Helmle said.

The district attorney ended up dropping the charges against Matt due to lack of evidence.

Still, the family kept the name “Probst” covered.

“Somebody had to work hard at it to get it off,” Helmle said.

It happened at Sunset Memorial Park Cemetery in Norman.

It doesn’t have surveillance cameras.

As far as the family knows, no one saw anything suspicious.

“I’m not sure that we ever will be able to find out who did it. They’re pretty low whoever did this,” Helmle said.

While Nancy’s murder case is cold, it’s not closed.

Midwest City police and investigators with the district attorney's office still have an open case file.

“We’re always hopeful, we’re always hopeful that justice will be served,” Helmle said.

Nancy’s family now plans to have the name “Probst” permanently removed from the headstone.

Matt Probst now lives in Texas.

We reached out to him, but our calls have gone unanswered.