Mom’s scathing letter to store after sales clerk body shames 13-year-old daughter goes viral

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Mom claims Dillard's body-shamed her daughter

WICHITA, Kan. – A mother’s Facebook post about what her daughter experienced while trying on a dress at a department store is going viral.

Megan Harris and her 13-year-old daughter Lexi were shopping at Dilliard’s for an upcoming formal dance.

Lexi had just tried on a long red dress when the salesperson told the teen she needed Spanx if she wanted to wear the dress to the dance.

Megan says she told the salesperson that her daughter looked fine without Spanx, but the salesperson insisted Lexi needed the body-shaping undergarments.

The mother’s Facebook post about the experience has been shared more than 70,000 times, and received more than 400,000 “likes.”

Dear sales lady at Dillard’s Towne East Mall,

This is my teenage daughter who wanted to try on dresses for an upcoming formal. I found this dress and asked her to try it on. She told me this was not her style, but tried it on for me. I told her how grown up it made her look and she smiled, and told me this made her look too old but still, she let me take a picture. Right after that, you entered and told my daughter she needed to wear SPANX if she wanted to wear this dress. I told my daughter to go change. I told you that she was just fine without SPANX. You continued to argue with me. We left soon after. I wish I had told you how many girls suffer from poor self image and telling them they need something to make them perfect can be very damaging. Girls of all ages, shapes and sizes are perfect because that is how God made them. If they feel good in a dress, that is all that should matter. My daughter is tall, she swims, runs, dances and does yoga. She’s fit. She’s beautiful. She did not need you telling her that she is not perfect. I hope this is shared and gets back to you so that you should not say something like that to a girl ever again. You never know what negative or positive thoughts they are thinking about themselves.


Mother of a beautiful girl


A Dillard’s spokesperson released the following statement to KAKE:

“At Dillard’s, our mission is to help people feel good about themselves by enhancing the natural beauty found in all of us,” she states. “We train our sales associates with the goal of creating a completely positive experience with each visit. It is certainly never our intent to offend our customers. We have reached out to this customer and her daughter, and we appreciate the outreach of so many of our followers and customers to bring this issue to our attention.”